Abigail was fussy. It was raining again and it didn’t look like she and her older sister, Amanda, would be going with their grandparents to the beach that morning. The North Carolina weather was unpredictable this time of year and it looked like this might be another day of playing games inside.

But Grandma Rose had a different idea. “Let’s look at some old photos,” she suggested. “Why don’t you bring me my computer? It’s on the dining room table.”

Abigail carefully lifted the laptop off its charger and brought it to her grandmother. She waited patiently as her grandmother logged in and then brought up the web albums.

“Okay, “ mused Grandma Rose as she scrolled through the albums. “What sounds interesting? How about your baby pictures? Your parents’ wedding? I even have some old photos of your dad!”

“What about pictures of Dad in high school?” suggested Amanda, who had just walked into the sitting area with a towel wrapped around her wet hair.  Abigail quickly agreed. She would be starting sixth grade next month, but knew many of Amanda’s high school friends.

Grandma Rose found the album she wanted and pointed to a slender blond boy. “This is your dad as a sophomore—just the same age that Amanda is now.”

The girls bent over the photos, exclaiming at the funny hairstyles and clothing fashions from twenty years earlier. “What’s with the baggy shorts?” asked Amanda. “Ewww, is that Dad’s underwear?”

“Oh yes!” chuckled her grandmother. “I just hated that those boys went around with their shorts hanging down so low and their underwear showing. I guess I got used to it after awhile. In fact, I had forgotten all about that silly fashion!”

“Well, here’s another silly fashion,” declared Abigail. “Look at this picture. All these kids are wearing pink! Even the boys! Yuk! Since when do boys wear pink?”

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I’m a psychiatrist who sees the work of God in the awesomeness of the brain – the ways we are made to become ourselves in relationships, the actions of grace in the so-strong pull towards healing, the infinite diversity, the power of nonviolence to facilitate change, etc. If God isn’t a Mennonite, at least I can hope that the Anabaptist traditions can witness to some of the divine wind that sustains the universe.

As one whose “Mennoniteness” is so deeply woven into thought and action, I have been constantly inspired by the courage and grace of the queers who have persistently modeled commited faith – in spite of such absolute invalidation, stubborn misunderstandings and attempts to exclude from both church and faith, you/they have continued to show up, use gifts for the growth of Christ’s body, offer the cup of cold water and prayers of the heart. For all the ways that you stay in communication, while still claiming whatever space you need to be your God-shaped selves, thank you.

As a psychiatrist I see on a near daily basis the impact of the persecution of those who don’t fit the mainstream heterosexual mold. And so as a human being, as one who journeys with those seeking healing, and as a Christian, I need to urge my fellow believers to create life-saving space for those who are threatened by active hate whether that is from another person or within themselves. (Click here to read the rest of this entry)

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I just ran across a note I scribbled down during one of the delegate sessions at Columbus. At one of the church agency booths in the exhibit hall, visitors were asked to write names on the “Call Wall” of people who they thought would make good pastors–with the idea that if you walked by and saw YOUR name up there, it might be the encouragement you need to make a move in that direction. In this delegate session, they showed a video of visitors being asked the question, “Who do you think would make a good pastor?” It was a pretty clever idea, I thought.

Right away though, as I was listening to them casually naming names, I remembered two instances of people very earnestly having that “call” conversation with me–both before I came out as gay. (Click here to read the rest of this entry)

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